The Other Side Of Anger

Author : Jugal Kishaore Baid
Publisher : Sankalp Publication
ISBN 13 : 9395016116
Total Pages : 133 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (95 download)

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Download or read book Anger written by Jugal Kishaore Baid and published by Sankalp Publication. This book was released on with total page 133 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: : It goes without saying that we in general must have been angry at one time or the other. It is not easy to escape anger because anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism towards someone or something we feel, has deliberately done us wrong. In other words anger is natural, though sometimes unwanted or irrational emotion that everybody experiences from time to time. Experts opine that this emotion as a primary natural emotion which has evolved as a way of surviving and protecting ourselves from what is considered a wrong doing. Experience shows us that, typically anger is triggered by an emotional hurt, Anger is usually experienced as an unpleasant feeling that occurs when we think we have been injured, mistreated, opposed in our long-held views, or when we are faced with obstacles that keep us from attaining personal goals. The evil tendency of being angry has not found favour anywhere. The outburst of anger has been condemned in all religions of the world. In the Shrimad Bhagwadgita anger has been described as the cause of man's ruin. When he is angry he loses all sense of discrimination, not knowing what is wrong or what is right. Excessive anger can cause problems. Increased blood pressure and other physical changes associated with anger make it difficult to think straight and harm our physical and mental health. It may be interesting to note that our longevity of life also suffers on account of anger. In the state of anger our breath becomes faster and faster. Our natural breathing rhythm is lost. In our normal state, as our breathing becomes more rhythmic, deeper and slower, we feel calm. Normally we take fifteen breaths in a minute, or 21,600 breaths in 24 hours. By breathing slowly and deeply the number of breaths per minute come down leading to longer life. On the contrary in the state of anger we breathe fast losing more breaths thereby using more breaths. It is like a bank balance, if we withdraw our money from the bank day after day, the balance in the bank will be soon exhausted. Similarly if we use more breaths by breathing in quick and faster way we will lose the usual breaths which will shorten our life. As pointed out above, almost all the religions of the world have condemned anger. For example, Medieval Christianity vigoursly denounced wrath (anger, as one of the seven cardinial, or deadly sins. In our Hindu philosophy, anger is equated with sorrow as a form of unrequited desire. The objects of anger are perceived as a hindrance to the gratification of the desire of the angry person. A reference to the Gita has already been made in the foregoing lines. In continuance, it may be stated that Lord Krishna regards greed, anger and lust as signs of ignorance that lead to perpetual bondage. In Buddhism, anger is listed as one of the five hindrances in the Spiritual practice. The horrible picture of an angry man can be seen in the words of Buddha himself. “An angry person is ugly and sleeps poorly. Gaining a profit, he turns into a loss, having done damage with word and deed. A person overwhelmed with anger destroys his wealth. Maddened with angry, he destroys his status. Relatives, friends and colleagues avoid him. Anger brings loss. Anger inflames the mind. He does not realise that his danger is born from within. A man conquered by anger is in a mass of darkness. When anger spreads, when a man becomes angry, he has no shame, no fear of evil, is not respectful in speech. For a person overcome with anger nothing gives light.” In the Quran, people have been instructed to restrain their anger. It has been stressed there that anger begins with madness, and ends in regret. In Judaism, anger is a negative trait Restraining oneself from anger is seen as noble and desirable. In Jainism, anger is one of the d"kk; (evil passions) which needs to be conquered along with other d"kk; like greed, attachment, fear, to achieve the desired goal of spiritual penance. The focal point is that nowhere anger has been spared on account of its evil effect. Yet, there is another facet of anger which, though always be destructive can also be constructive. The constructive part of anger will be discussed in the forthcoming pages. But, the impact of excessive anger is always damaging. Out of control anger alienates friends, co-workers and family members. Hostile aggressive anger not only increases our risk for an early death, but also our risk for social isolation, which is a major risk factor for serious illness. Anger can trigger physical changes including an increased heart rate, blood pressure and levels of hormones such as adrenaline preparing us physically for fight or flight. Due to these physical effects long-term anger can be detrimental to health and well-being. Not only human beings become angry but even animals, birds and other creatures also get angry when they are hurt or tortured. But their way of expressing anger may be in the form of violence or in any other form which we can't understand. Not only adults get angry, children also get angry though they may suppress their anger before their parents. When parents unduly compare their child with other children and devalue his or her good attributes it not only discourages the child but also becomes a cause of child's anger that he might not express for fear of social decency and moral conduct. Parents should not give a chance to their children to get angry by their irresponsible conduct of comparing their child with others and undermine his or her positive qualities. However, with the help of a positive anger or constructive anger called as ve"kZ, parents can with ve"kZ give a hard dealing to the child for better conduct. This anger is for the good of the child because it is for his amendment. Parents, teachers and other well meaning elderly people can use Amarsh for the child's improvement. But it is without doubt, that anger needs to be restrained and conquered. It is needed both for the individual and society at large. In view of the evil some tendency of anger I thought that I should pick up such a topic which may be universal and engage the interest of the people in general. It seemed to me that anger as a subject may be relevant so far as our individual or social conduct is concerned. Non-control of anger can cause serious consequences both for the individual and society. Hence, the control of anger is the dire need of the hour. In the next pages an attempt will be made to look for the causes of anger, impact of anger and also the ways to combat and conquer anger especially for the wellbeing of the individual and society. People have watched the abnormal behavior of our an angry man. My experience also tells me that none can say that he or she has never been angry. No one can escape being angry. In the end, I invite the avid reader to go through these pages so he or she may know the damaging impact of anger and also as to how that he may know necessary ways and means to restrain and conquer anger which is responsible for the depletion of personality. I hope the book will receive its deserved appreciation by which I shall feel highly rewarded for my effort to deal with a subject of universal interest and utility.