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Marriage, Household and Home in Modern Russia

Author : Barbara Alpern Engel
Publisher : Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN 13 : 1350014494
Total Pages : 289 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (5 download)

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Download or read book Marriage, Household and Home in Modern Russia written by Barbara Alpern Engel and published by Bloomsbury Publishing. This book was released on 2021-08-12 with total page 289 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Barbara Alpern Engel's Marriage, Household and Home in Modern Russia is the first book to explore the intricacies of domestic life in Russia across the modern period. Surveying the period from 1700 right up to the present day, the book explores the marital and domestic arrangements of Russians at multiple levels of society and the impact of broader historical developments, including war and revolution, upon them. It also traces the evolution of marriage, household and home as institutions over three centuries, whilst also highlighting the inter-relationship between public policy and private life, in what is a wholly original historical assessment of domesticity in modern Russia. In the process, the author expertly synthesizes the key works, arguments and discussions in the field, mapping out the historiographical landscape of this compelling aspect of Russian social history. Marriage, Household and Home in Modern Russia is crucial reading for any student or scholar of modern Russian history.

An Ordinary Marriage

Author : Katherine Pickering Antonova
Publisher : Oxford University Press
ISBN 13 : 0190616741
Total Pages : 325 pages
Book Rating : 4.1/5 (96 download)

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Download or read book An Ordinary Marriage written by Katherine Pickering Antonova and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2017-03-15 with total page 325 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: An Ordinary Marriage is the story of the Chikhachevs, middling-income gentry landowners in nineteenth-century provincial Russia. In a seemingly strange contradiction, the mother of this family, Natalia, oversaw serf labor and managed finances while the father, Andrei, raised the children, at a time when domestic ideology advocating a woman's place in the home was at its height in European advice manuals. But Andrei Chikhachev defined masculinity as a realm of intellectualism; the father could be in charge of moral education, defined as an intellectual task. Managing estates that often barely yielded a livable income was a practical task and therefore considered less elevated, though still vitally important to the family's interests. Thus estate management was available to gentry women like Natalia Chikhacheva, and the fact that it inevitably expanded their realm of influence and opportunity (within the limits of their estates), and that it increased their centrality to the family's material security relative to their social counterparts to the west, was accidental. An Ordinary Marriage examines the daily activities and ideas of the family based on multiple overlapping diaries and informal correspondence by the husband, wife, and son of the family, as well as the wife's brother. No such cache of intimate Russian family documents has ever previously been studied in such depth. The family's relative obscurity (with no pretensions to fame, wealth, or influence) and the presence of a woman's private documents are especially unusual in any context. The book considers the Chikhachevs' social life, reading habits, attitudes toward illness and death, as well as their marital roles and their reception of major ideas of their time, such as domesticity, Enlightenment, sentimentalism, and Romanticism.

My Russian Wife. Моя русская жена.

Author : Kjetil Sandermoen
Publisher : Sandermoen Publishing
ISBN 13 : 3952474584
Total Pages : 293 pages
Book Rating : 4.9/5 (524 download)

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Download or read book My Russian Wife. Моя русская жена. written by Kjetil Sandermoen and published by Sandermoen Publishing. This book was released on 2018-10-17 with total page 293 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Insights and reflections about being a couple with different cultural background. Bilingual book: Russian and English. The book “My Russian Wife” is not a typical book about love and romance. It is about how you build a loving and lasting relationship despite of differences, but the book also contains insights about several aspects that are just as relevant for business as for the personal life. Quotes from the book “My experience is that women are very easy to win over if ... ” “Isn’t it boring to live in Switzerland?” “But you don’t have berezka (birch trees) here, don’t you miss the Russian berezka?!” “A nice, long and complicated toast will always be highly regarded.” “Being a Russian mother also means believing your child is always on the brink of starvation.” “When did you kiss mama for the first time?”

Legitimating the Law

Author : John Phillip Reid
Publisher : Cornell University Press
ISBN 13 : 1609090543
Total Pages : 268 pages
Book Rating : 4.6/5 (9 download)

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Download or read book Legitimating the Law written by John Phillip Reid and published by Cornell University Press. This book was released on 2012-06-15 with total page 268 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: John Phillip Reid is one of the most highly regarded historians of law as it was practiced on the state level in the nascent United States. He is not just the recipient of numerous honors for his scholarship but the type of historian after whom such accolades are named: the John Phillip Reid Award is given annually by the American Society for Legal History to the author of the best book by a mid-career or senior scholar. Legitimating the Law is the third installment in a trilogy of books by Reid that seek to extend our knowledge about the judicial history of the early republic by recounting the development of courts, laws, and legal theory in New Hampshire. Here Reid turns his eye toward the professionalization of law and the legitimization of legal practices in the Granite State—customs and codes of professional conduct that would form the basis of judiciaries in other states and that remain the cornerstone of our legal system to this day throughout the US. Legitimating the Law chronicles the struggle by which lawyers and torchbearers of strong, centralized government sought to bring standards of competence to New Hampshire through the professionalization of the bench and the bar—ambitions that were fought vigorously by both Jeffersonian legislators and anti-Federalists in the private sector alike, but ultimately to no avail.

A History of Russian Women

Author : Barbara Engel
Publisher :
ISBN 13 :
Total Pages : 0 pages
Book Rating : 4.8/5 (871 download)

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Download or read book A History of Russian Women written by Barbara Engel and published by . This book was released on 2022-11 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Synthesizing decades of scholarship with her own work in primary and archival sources, Barbara Alpern Engel skillfully evokes the voices of individuals to enliven the account. The book captures the diversity of women's lives, detailing how women of various social strata were affected by and shaped historical change. Adopting the perspective of women provides fresh interpretations of Russia's past and important insights into the impact of gender on the ways that Russians defined themselves and others and imagined political change. Designed for a scholarly as well as popular readership, the book integrates women's experience into broader developments in Russia's social, economic, cultural and political history.

The Family Novel in Russia and England, 1800-1880

Author : Anna A. Berman
Publisher : Oxford University Press
ISBN 13 : 0192866621
Total Pages : 273 pages
Book Rating : 4.1/5 (928 download)

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Download or read book The Family Novel in Russia and England, 1800-1880 written by Anna A. Berman and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2022-09-15 with total page 273 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book offers a new understanding of the relationship between family structures and narrative structure in the nineteenth-century novel. Comparing Russia and England, it argues that the two nations had fundamentally different conceptions of the family and that these, in turn, shaped the way they constructed plots. The English placed primary value on the vertical, diachronic family axis--looking back to ancestors and head to progeny--while the Russians emphasized the lateral, synchronic axis--family expanding outward in the present from nuclear core, to extended and chosen kin. This difference shaped the way authors plotted consanguineal relations, courtship and marriage, and alternative kinship constructions. Idealizing the domestic sphere and emphasizing family continuity, the English novel made family a conservative force, while Russian novels approached it as a backward site of patriarchal tyranny in desperate need of reform. Russian family plots offered a progressive, liberalizing push toward new, nontraditional family constructions. The book's comparative approach calls for a re-evaluation of reigning theories of the novel, theories that are based on the linear English family model and cannot accommodate the more complex, Russian alternative. It reveals where these theories fall short, explains the reasons for their shortcomings, and offers a new way of conceptualizing family's role in shaping the nineteenth-century novel. Classics from Dickens, Eliot, and Trollope, to Dostoevsky, Tolstoy, and Turgenev are contextualized in the broader literary landscape of their day, and Russia's great women writers regain their rightful place alongside their male counterparts as the book draws together family history, literary analysis, and novel theory.

Collapse of an Empire

Author : Yegor Gaidar
Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN 13 : 0815731159
Total Pages : 354 pages
Book Rating : 4.8/5 (157 download)

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Download or read book Collapse of an Empire written by Yegor Gaidar and published by Rowman & Littlefield. This book was released on 2010-01-01 with total page 354 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "My goal is to show the reader that the Soviet political and economic system was unstable by its very nature. It was just a question of when and how it would collapse...." —From the Introduction to Collapse of an Empire The Soviet Union was an empire in many senses of the word—a vast mix of far-flung regions and accidental citizens by way of conquest or annexation. Typical of such empires, it was built on shaky foundations. That instability made its demise inevitable, asserts Yegor Gaidar, former prime minister of Russia and architect of the "shock therapy" economic reforms of the 1990s. Yet a growing desire to return to the glory days of empire is pushing today's Russia backward into many of the same traps that made the Soviet Union untenable. In this important new book, Gaidar clearly illustrates why Russian nostalgia for empire is dangerous and ill-fated: "Dreams of returning to another era are illusory. Attempts to do so will lead to defeat." Gaidar uses world history, the Soviet experience, and economic analysis to demonstrate why swimming against this tide of history would be a huge mistake. The USSR sowed the seeds of its own economic destruction, and Gaidar worries that Russia is repeating some of those mistakes. Once again, for example, the nation is putting too many eggs into one basket, leaving the nation vulnerable to fluctuations in the energy market. The Soviets had used revenues from energy sales to prop up struggling sectors such as agriculture, which was so thoroughly ravaged by hyperindustrialization that the Soviet Union became a net importer of food. When oil prices dropped in the 1980s, that revenue stream diminished, and dependent sectors suffered heavily. Although strategies requiring austerity or sacrifice can be politically difficult, Russia needs to prepare for such downturns and restrain spending during prosperous times. Collapse of an Empire shows why it is imperative to fix the roof before it starts to rain, and why so

What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage

Author : Amy Sutherland
Publisher : Random House Trade Paperbacks
ISBN 13 : 0812978080
Total Pages : 194 pages
Book Rating : 4.8/5 (129 download)

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Download or read book What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage written by Amy Sutherland and published by Random House Trade Paperbacks. This book was released on 2009-04-14 with total page 194 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: While observing trainers of exotic animals, journalist Amy Sutherland had an epiphany: What if she used their techniques with the human animals in her own life–specifically her dear husband, Scott? As Sutherland put training principles into action, she noticed that not only did her twelve-year-old marriage improve, but she herself became more optimistic and less judgmental. What started as a goofy experiment had such good results that Sutherland began using the training techniques with all the people in her life, including her mother, her friends, her students, even the clerk at the post office. Full of fun facts, fascinating insights, hilarious anecdotes, and practical tips, What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage reveals the biggest lesson Sutherland learned: The only animal you can truly change is yourself.

Sacred Stories

Author : Mark D. Steinberg
Publisher : Indiana University Press
ISBN 13 : 0253218500
Total Pages : 867 pages
Book Rating : 4.2/5 (532 download)

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Download or read book Sacred Stories written by Mark D. Steinberg and published by Indiana University Press. This book was released on 2007-01-24 with total page 867 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Sacred Stories brings together the work of leading scholars writing on the history of religion and religiosity in late imperial Russia during the critical decades preceding the 1917 revolutions. Embodying new research and new methodologies, this book reshapes our understanding of the place of religion in modern Russian history. Topics examined include miraculous icons and healing, pilgrim narratives, confessions, women and Orthodox domesticity, marriage and divorce, conversion and tolerance, Jewish folk beliefs, mysticism in Russian art, and philosophical aspects of Orthodox religious thought. Sacred Stories demonstrates that belief, spirituality, and the sacred were powerful and complex cultural expressions central to Russian political, social, economic, and cultural life. Contributors are Nicholas B. Breyfogle, Heather J. Coleman, Gregory L. Freeze, Nadieszda Kizenko, Alexei A. Kurbanovsky, Roy R. Robson, Bernice Glatzer Rosenthal, Gabriella Safran, Vera Shevzov, Sarah Abrevaya Stein, Mark Steinberg, Paul Valliere, William G. Wagner, Paul W. Werth, and Christine D. Worobec.

Blow Your House Down

Author : Gina Frangello
Publisher : Catapult
ISBN 13 : 164009525X
Total Pages : 337 pages
Book Rating : 4.6/5 (4 download)

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Download or read book Blow Your House Down written by Gina Frangello and published by Catapult. This book was released on 2022-04-12 with total page 337 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A Good Morning America Recommended Book • A BuzzFeed Most Anticipated Book of the Year • A Lit Hub Most Anticipated Book of the Year • A Rumpus Most Anticipated Book of the Year • A Bustle Most Anticipated Book of the Month "A pathbreaking feminist manifesto, impossible to put down or dismiss. Gina Frangello tells the morally complex story of her adulterous relationship with a lover and her shortcomings as a mother, and in doing so, highlights the forces that shaped, silenced, and shamed her: everyday misogyny, puritanical expectations regarding female sexuality and maternal sacrifice, and male oppression." —Adrienne Brodeur, author of Wild Game Gina Frangello spent her early adulthood trying to outrun a youth marked by poverty and violence. Now a long-married wife and devoted mother, the better life she carefully built is emotionally upended by the death of her closest friend. Soon, awakened to fault lines in her troubled marriage, Frangello is caught up in a recklessly passionate affair, leading a double life while continuing to project the image of the perfect family. When her secrets are finally uncovered, both her home and her identity will implode, testing the limits of desire, responsibility, love, and forgiveness. Blow Your House Down is a powerful testimony about the ways our culture seeks to cage women in traditional narratives of self-sacrifice and erasure. Frangello uses her personal story to examine the place of women in contemporary society: the violence they experience, the rage they suppress, the ways their bodies often reveal what they cannot say aloud, and finally, what it means to transgress "being good" in order to reclaim your own life.

Russian Populism

Author : Christopher Ely
Publisher : Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN 13 : 1350095567
Total Pages : 273 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (5 download)

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Download or read book Russian Populism written by Christopher Ely and published by Bloomsbury Publishing. This book was released on 2021-12-30 with total page 273 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Russian populism, the belief that the peasantry embodied authentic Russian identity and once liberated from their poverty would lead the country to a brighter future, has animated Russian thought across the political spectrum and inspired much of Russia's world-historical literature, music and art in the 19th century. This book offers the fullest and most authoritative account of the rise, proliferation and influence of populist values and ideology in modern Russia to date. Christopher Ely explores the complete story of Russian populism. Starting from the cursed question of how to reconnect the popular masses with the Europeanized elite, he examines the populist obsession with the peasant commune as a model for a future socialist Russia. He shows how the desire for revolution led Russian radicals to flood into the countryside and later to pioneer terrorism as a form of political action. He delves into those artists influenced by populist ideals, and he tells the story of the collapse of populist optimism and its rebirth among the Socialist Revolutionary neo-populists. The book demonstrates that populism existed in forms ranging from radical socialist to religious conservative. Blending lively theoretical analysis with a wealth of primary sources and illustrations, Russian Populism provides a highly engaging overview of this complex phenomenon; it is invaluable reading for anyone interested in the momentous final decades of the Russian Empire.

The Russian Intelligentsia

Author : Christopher Read
Publisher : Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN 13 : 1350035831
Total Pages : 337 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (5 download)

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Download or read book The Russian Intelligentsia written by Christopher Read and published by Bloomsbury Publishing. This book was released on 2024-02-22 with total page 337 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Russian Intelligentsia is the first single-volume history of a small but tremendously influential group of Russian intellectuals who achieved world renown in a variety of spheres. While previous accounts have addressed the history of individuals within this collective, Christopher Read offers the first explanation of the intelligentsia as a group. Read traces the vast debates that broke out between, and within, a multitude of intellectual factions, and contextualizes the ideas of the group within the framework of cultural, social, political, and economic development from the late 18th century to the present day. This comprehensive yet accessible account demonstrates how the Russian intelligentsia morphed from one incarnation to the next, and effectively situates this change and continuity within a pan-European context. It considers the role of the intelligentsia throughout its origins, its transformation during the Russian Revolution, and since the collapse of communism, and highlights the beliefs of key figures such as Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Ivan Pavlov, Vladimir Lenin, Leon Trotsky, and Mikhail Gorbachev. In doing so, Read provides an essential guide to a fascinating aspect of Russia's social and cultural history.

The Military History of the Russian Empire from Peter the Great until Nicholas II

Author : John W. Steinberg
Publisher : Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN 13 : 1350037192
Total Pages : 341 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (5 download)

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Download or read book The Military History of the Russian Empire from Peter the Great until Nicholas II written by John W. Steinberg and published by Bloomsbury Publishing. This book was released on 2024-01-11 with total page 341 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book examines the rise and the fall of the Russian Empire through the lens of its military history. While much of the literature on this history tends to focus on epochs, The Russian Military and the Creation of Empire uses a variety of archival sources to capture this aspect of modern Russia from Peter the Great right up to the present day. John W. Steinberg analyzes the social dynamic between Russian society and its military over time. Through a focus on civil-military relations, he demonstrates that both the Tsarist and Soviet regimes were built on, and ultimately dependent upon, the support of the military. Case studies of significant battles are also used throughout the volume to reveal insights into the roles, missions, and capabilities of the Russian military since 1689. The Russian Military and the Creation of Empire is a vital study for all students of modern Russia and the history of modern warfare.

Family and the State in Soviet Lithuania

Author : Dalia Leinarte
Publisher : Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN 13 : 1350136115
Total Pages : 225 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (51 download)

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Download or read book Family and the State in Soviet Lithuania written by Dalia Leinarte and published by Bloomsbury Publishing. This book was released on 2021-07-15 with total page 225 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If the home remained a safe space for families during the Soviet occupation of Lithuania, why is it that the memories of women's domestic lives in Soviet Lithuania are so fragmented? In Family and the State in Soviet Lithuania, Dalia Leinarte deftly challenges the commonplace 'kitchen culture' idea that the home was a site of silent resistance where traditional Lithuanian values continued to be nurtured. Instead, this fascinating book reveals how the totalitarian state gradually abolished the private lives of Lithuanian families altogether. Based on over 100 interviews and an array of archival sources, this book analyses how family policy formed the everyday life of men and women and considers how the internalisation of Soviet ideology took place in the private sphere. From a well-developed after-school activity program for children to strict rules regarding the working hours of men and women, ultimately the family could not remain isolated from the regime. Family and the State in Soviet Lithuania is the first book to explore family policy in the Soviet Baltic states and is therefore a vital resource for scholars of Soviet and gender history.

The House by the Dvina

Author : Eugenie Fraser
Publisher : Random House
ISBN 13 : 1845969855
Total Pages : 384 pages
Book Rating : 4.8/5 (459 download)

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Download or read book The House by the Dvina written by Eugenie Fraser and published by Random House. This book was released on 2011-03-11 with total page 384 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The House by the Dvina is the riveting story of two families separated in culture and geography but bound together by a Russian-Scottish marriage. It includes episodes as romantic and dramatic as any in fiction: the purchase by the author's great-grandfather of a peasant girl with whom he had fallen in love; the desperate sledge journey in the depths of winter made by her grandmother to intercede with Tsar Aleksandr II for her husband; the extraordinary courtship of her parents; and her Scottish granny being caught up in the abortive revolution of 1905. Eugenie Fraser herself was brought up in Russia but was taken on visits to Scotland. She marvellously evokes a child's reactions to two totally different environments, sets of customs and family backgrounds, while the characters are beautifully drawn and splendidly memorable. With the events of 1914 to 1920 - the war with Germany, the Revolution, the murder of the Tsar and the withdrawal of the Allied Intervention in the north - came the disintegration of Russia and of family life. The stark realities of hunger, deprivation and fear are sharply contrasted with the adventures of childhood. The reader shares the family's suspense and concern about the fates of its members and relives with Eugenie her final escape to Scotland. In The House by the Dvina, Eugenie Fraser has vividly and poignantly portrayed a way of life that finally disappeared in violence and tragedy.

Marriage and Family

Author : H. Elizabeth Peters
Publisher : Columbia University Press
ISBN 13 : 0231520026
Total Pages : 447 pages
Book Rating : 4.2/5 (315 download)

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Download or read book Marriage and Family written by H. Elizabeth Peters and published by Columbia University Press. This book was released on 2009-07-16 with total page 447 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Family life has been radically transformed over the past three decades. Half of all households are unmarried, while only a quarter of all married households have kids. A third of the nation's births are to unwed mothers, and a third of America's married men earn less than their wives. With half of all women cohabitating before they turn thirty and gay and lesbian couples settling down with increasing visibility, there couldn't be a better time for a book that tracks new conceptions of marriage and family as they are being formed. The editors of this volume explore the motivation to marry and the role of matrimony in a diverse group of men and women. They compare empirical data from several emerging family types (single, co-parent, gay and lesbian, among others) to studies of traditional nuclear families, and they consider the effect of public policy and recent economic developments on the practice of marriage and the stabilization or destabilization of family. Approaching this topic from a variety of perspectives, including historical, cross-cultural, gendered, demographic, socio-biological, and social-psychological viewpoints, the editors highlight the complexity of the modern American family and the growing indeterminacy of its boundaries. Refusing to adhere to any one position, the editors provide an unbiased account of contemporary marriage and family.

Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

Author : Ada Calhoun
Publisher : W. W. Norton & Company
ISBN 13 : 0393254801
Total Pages : 256 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (932 download)

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Download or read book Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give written by Ada Calhoun and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2017-05-16 with total page 256 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Seven essays celebrating the beauty of the imperfect marriage. We hear plenty about whether or not to get married, but much less about what it takes to stay married. Clichés around marriage—eternal bliss, domestic harmony, soul mates—leave out the real stuff. After marriage you may still want to sleep with other people. Sometimes your partner will bore the hell out of you. And when stuck paying for your spouse’s mistakes, you might miss being single. In Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give, Ada Calhoun presents an unflinching but also loving portrait of her own marriage, opening a long-overdue conversation about the institution as it truly is: not the happy ending of a love story or a relic doomed by high divorce rates, but the beginning of a challenging new chapter of which “the first twenty years are the hardest.” Calhoun’s funny, poignant personal essays explore the bedrooms of modern coupledom for a nuanced discussion of infidelity, existential anxiety, and the many other obstacles to staying together. Both realistic and openhearted, Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give offers a refreshing new way to think about marriage as a brave, tough, creative decision to stay with another person for the rest of your life. “What a burden,” Calhoun calls marriage, “and what a gift.”