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Book Synopsis The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change by : Pauline Boss
Download or read book The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change written by Pauline Boss and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2021-12-14 with total page 158 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: How do we begin to cope with loss that cannot be resolved? The COVID-19 pandemic has left many of us haunted by feelings of anxiety, despair, and even anger. In this book, pioneering therapist Pauline Boss identifies these vague feelings of distress as caused by ambiguous loss, losses that remain unclear and hard to pin down, and thus have no closure. Collectively the world is grieving as the pandemic continues to change our everyday lives. With a loss of trust in the world as a safe place, a loss of certainty about health care, education, employment, lingering anxieties plague many of us, even as parts of the world are opening back up again. Yet after so much loss, our search must be for a sense of meaning, and not something as elusive and impossible as "closure." This book provides many strategies for coping: encouraging us to increase our tolerance of ambiguity and acknowledging our resilience as we express a normal grief, and still look to the future with hope and possibility.
Download or read book Ambiguous Loss written by Pauline BOSS and published by Harvard University Press. This book was released on 2009-06-30 with total page 166 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: When a loved one dies we mourn our loss. We take comfort in the rituals that mark the passing, and we turn to those around us for support. But what happens when there is no closure, when a family member or a friend who may be still alive is lost to us nonetheless? How, for example, does the mother whose soldier son is missing in action, or the family of an Alzheimer's patient who is suffering from severe dementia, deal with the uncertainty surrounding this kind of loss? In this sensitive and lucid account, Pauline Boss explains that, all too often, those confronted with such ambiguous loss fluctuate between hope and hopelessness. Suffered too long, these emotions can deaden feeling and make it impossible for people to move on with their lives. Yet the central message of this book is that they can move on. Drawing on her research and clinical experience, Boss suggests strategies that can cushion the pain and help families come to terms with their grief. Her work features the heartening narratives of those who cope with ambiguous loss and manage to leave their sadness behind, including those who have lost family members to divorce, immigration, adoption, chronic mental illness, and brain injury. With its message of hope, this eloquent book offers guidance and understanding to those struggling to regain their lives. Table of Contents: 1. Frozen Grief 2. Leaving without Goodbye 3. Goodbye without Leaving 4. Mixed Emotions 5. Ups and Downs 6. The Family Gamble 7. The Turning Point 8. Making Sense out of Ambiguity 9. The Benefit of a Doubt Notes Acknowledgments Reviews of this book: You will find yourself thinking about the issues discussed in this book long after you put it down and perhaps wishing you had extra copies for friends and family members who might benefit from knowing that their sorrows are not unique...This book's value lies in its giving a name to a force many of us will confront--sadly, more than once--and providing personal stories based on 20 years of interviews and research. --Pamela Gerhardt, Washington Post Reviews of this book: A compassionate exploration of the effects of ambiguous loss and how those experiencing it handle this most devastating of losses ... Boss's approach is to encourage families to talk together, to reach a consensus about how to mourn that which has been lost and how to celebrate that which remains. Her simple stories of families doing just that contain lessons for all. Insightful, practical, and refreshingly free of psychobabble. --Kirkus Review Reviews of this book: Engagingly written and richly rewarding, this title presents what Boss has learned from many years of treating individuals and families suffering from uncertain or incomplete loss...The obvious depth of the author's understanding of sufferers of ambiguous loss and the facility with which she communicates that understanding make this a book to be recommended. --R. R. Cornellius, Choice Reviews of this book: Written for a wide readership, the concepts of ambiguous loss take immediate form through the many provocative examples and stories Boss includes, All readers will find stories with which they will relate...Sensitive, grounded and practical, this book should, in my estimation, be required reading for family practitioners. --Ted Bowman, Family Forum Reviews of this book: Dr. Boss describes [the] all-too-common phenomenon [of unresolved grief] as resulting from either of two circumstances: when the lost person is still physically present but emotionally absent or when the lost person is physically absent but still emotionally present. In addition to senility, physical presence but psychological absence may result, for example, when a person is suffering from a serious mental disorder like schizophrenia or depression or debilitating neurological damage from an accident or severe stroke, when a person abuses drugs or alcohol, when a child is autistic or when a spouse is a workaholic who is not really 'there' even when he or she is at home...Cases of physical absence with continuing psychological presence typically occur when a soldier is missing in action, when a child disappears and is not found, when a former lover or spouse is still very much missed, when a child 'loses' a parent to divorce or when people are separated from their loved ones by immigration...Professionals familiar with Dr. Boss's work emphasised that people suffering from ambiguous loss were not mentally ill, but were just stuck and needed help getting past the barrier or unresolved grief so that they could get on with their lives. --Asian Age Combining her talents as a compassionate family therapist and a creative researcher, Pauline Boss eloquently shows the many and complex ways that people can cope with the inevitable losses in contemporary family life. A wise book, and certain to become a classic. --Constance R. Ahrons, author of The Good Divorce A powerful and healing book. Families experiencing ambiguous loss will find strategies for seeing what aspects of their loved ones remain, and for understanding and grieving what they have lost. Pauline Boss offers us both insight and clarity. --Kathy Weingarten, Ph.D, The Family Institute of Cambridge, Harvard Medical School
Book Synopsis Loss, Trauma, and Resilience: Therapeutic Work With Ambiguous Loss by : Pauline Boss
Download or read book Loss, Trauma, and Resilience: Therapeutic Work With Ambiguous Loss written by Pauline Boss and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2018-08-28 with total page 280 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: All losses are touched with ambiguity. Yet those who suffer losses without finality bear a particular burden. Pauline Boss, the principal theorist of the concept of ambiguous loss, guides clinicians in the task of building resilience in clients who face the trauma of loss without resolution. Boss describes a concrete therapeutic approach that is at once directive and open to the complex contexts in which people find meaning and discover hope in the face of ambiguous losses. In Part I readers are introduced to the concept of ambiguous loss and shown how such losses relate to concepts of the family, definitions of trauma, and capacities for resilience. In Part II Boss leads readers through the various aspects of and target points for working with those suffering ambiguous loss. From meaning to mastery, identity to ambivalence, attachment to hope–these chapters cover key states of mind for those undergoing ambiguous loss. The Epilogue addresses the therapist directly and his or her own ambiguous losses. Closing the circle of the therapeutic process, Boss shows therapists how fundamental their own experiences of loss are to their own clinical work. In Loss, Trauma, and Resilience, Boss provides the therapeutic insight and wisdom that aids mental health professionals in not "going for closure," but rather building strength and acceptance of ambiguity. What readers will find is a concrete therapeutic approach that is at once directive and open to the complex contexts in which people find meaning and discover hope in the face of ambiguous losses.
Download or read book Hit Hard written by Pat McLeod and published by NavPress. This book was released on 2019-07-09 with total page 285 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Life hit Pat and Tammy McLeod hard when their son Zach collapsed on a high school football field; he had sustained a severe brain injury. Facing the devastating possibility that things would never be the same for their beloved son, they committed to staying strong as a family and finding a way to maintain their footing. But the journey would reshape their faith, their family, and their future in ways they never saw coming. What would it take for them to navigate the endless fallout of their son’s life-transforming injury? How could they reconcile their grief over the life Zach lost, with gratitude for the life that remained? And how does a couple move forward together in their search for hope, rather than letting indefinable loss drive them apart? Hit Hard is the true story of the McLeods’ journey through ambiguous loss—both having and not having their son. It’s the story of a family who faced unexpected heartbreak, a story that offers us all glimpses of how we can pick up the pieces, redefine expectations, and trust God for hope in the midst of unresolved pain.
Book Synopsis Loving Someone Who Has Dementia by : Pauline Boss
Download or read book Loving Someone Who Has Dementia written by Pauline Boss and published by John Wiley & Sons. This book was released on 2011-06-24 with total page 256 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Research-based advice for people who care for someone with dementia Nearly half of U.S. citizens over the age of 85 are suffering from some kind of dementia and require care. Loving Someone Who Has Dementia is a new kind of caregiving book. It's not about the usual techniques, but about how to manage on-going stress and grief. The book is for caregivers, family members, friends, neighbors as well as educators and professionals—anyone touched by the epidemic of dementia. Dr. Boss helps caregivers find hope in "ambiguous loss"—having a loved one both here and not here, physically present but psychologically absent. Outlines seven guidelines to stay resilient while caring for someone who has dementia Discusses the meaning of relationships with individuals who are cognitively impaired and no longer as they used to be Offers approaches to understand and cope with the emotional strain of care-giving Boss's book builds on research and clinical experience, yet the material is presented as a conversation. She shows you a way to embrace rather than resist the ambiguity in your relationship with someone who has dementia.
Download or read book Chronic Sorrow written by Susan Roos and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-01-14 with total page 292 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Grief and loss are burgeoning concerns for professional disciplines such as nursing, social work, family therapy, psychology, psychiatry, law, religion and medicine. Although understanding has increased in virtually all other areas of grief and loss, chronic sorrow has received scant attention. Chronic sorrow is a natural grief reaction to losses that are not final, but continue to be present in the life of the griever. This book views chronic sorrow in a life-span perspective, and reveals the effect on the griever and the people close to them. This book fills a void in the literature; and attempts to develop a comprehensive analysis of chronic sorrow that will secure its position within the field of grief and loss.
Download or read book Living Beyond Loss written by Froma Walsh and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2004 with total page 476 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Walsh and McGoldrick have fully revised and expanded this landmark work on the impact of death on the family system.
Book Synopsis An Ambiguous Grief by : Dominique Hunter
Download or read book An Ambiguous Grief written by Dominique Hunter and published by . This book was released on 2020-09-15 with total page 182 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "An Ambiguous Grief is a beautiful, unflinchingly honest, poignant and wistful memoir, written with humor, and a graceful sangfroid that is admirable. One thing Dominique Hunter has done extremely well is to reveal her son Dylan's story in the exact right way: readers know upfront that she has lost him, but they don't know how. By the time we find out what happened to him, we know enough about his struggles and hers to understand how he came to that point in his life. Although the story is about Dylan, in the end, it tells the story of a mother's journey through coping with a devastating loss and moving forward - not "getting over it," but facing it by using her intelligence, humor, honesty, and humanity to deal with it in all its messy, sad, loving, ironic, despairing, hopeful, ambivalent ways. And to survive that journey, she takes us into an imaginative realm where past, present and future align to give her the space to heal." - Susan Edwards, Editor, Florida "A brave and beautiful memoir. The author managed to write an engaging, not-depressing book about surely the most painful and depressing experience a mother could ever have. She gives us an affectionate and realistic portrait of her son, and indeed of herself, that is full of love, and its effect on the reader is to make life feel precious and rich, and to encourage us to love hard the people we love, who will someday be gone from us one way or another, without either sentimentality or didacticism. It would have been so easy, and understandable, for this book to be nearly unbearable to read, too personal for an outsider to connect to, a manifestation of despair. It isn't. It is deceptively 'light', and full of light. That is quite an accomplishment." - Lisa Kaufman, Editor, NYC
Book Synopsis Principles and Practice of Grief Counseling, Second Edition by : Howard R. Winokuer, PhD
Download or read book Principles and Practice of Grief Counseling, Second Edition written by Howard R. Winokuer, PhD and published by Springer Publishing Company. This book was released on 2015-08-10 with total page 272 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Praise for the First Edition: "The book is well-written, interesting, informative, thorough, and useful! As an educator for 43 years, this is the sort of text that I would be pleased to use in my classroom!....I would highly recommend this book! It is an important contribution to the field!"-- Gerry R. Cox , PhD, Illness, Crisis and Loss This core, introductory textbook for undergraduate and graduate-level courses is the first to combine the knowledge and skills of counseling psychology with current theory and research in grief and bereavement. The second edition has been updated to reflect important new research and changes in the field, including insights on complicated grief, resilience after adverse life experiences, and compassion-based approaches to death, loss, and grief. It discusses the implications of the DSM-5ís omission of the bereavement exclusion for the diagnosis of a major depressive disorder. A completely new chapter on the social context of loss addresses social messages, grieving rules, workplace policies, and the disenfranchisement of many aspects of normal, health grief. The text also touches upon some of the therapies that have been developed by major researchers in the field to address complicated grief. New case scenarios further enrich the second edition. The text is grounded in the belief that grief counseling is distinct from other therapeutic issues because it is an adaptive response rather than a form of pathology. It describes the unique aspects of grief as a normal response to losses both death and non-death related, and views the goal of counseling bereaved individuals as one of facilitating the unfolding of the healthy and adaptive aspects of the process as it manifests itself within each client. The book introduces various theories of bereavement and examines different therapeutic modalities that can be used in the context of grief and loss. Specific counseling practices that facilitate successful interventions are discussed, particularly that of "presence," considered by the authors to be the primary therapeutic stance when working with bereaved individuals. The text also addresses grief counseling with special populations, ethical issues, and self-care concerns for counselors. Case studies, discussion and reflection questions, and suggested additional resources are included in each chapter. New to the Second Edition: New insights on complicated grief, DSM categorizations of grief, resilience, and compassion-based approaches to death, loss, and grief A completely new chapter on the social context of loss, including social messaging, grieving rules, and workplace policies New case scenarios Addresses the unique aspects of grief after suicide and homicide Distinguishes grief/complicated grief from depression and trauma New information on the role and use of grief support groups New information on the use of social media and privacy issues Newly developed models of compassion-based response for counselors Application of current neuroscience research to grief counseling Use of technology and online counseling Key Features: Provides research-supported, practical guidance for grief counseling and support Regards grief therapy as a unique form of counseling based on grief as an adaptive response rather than as a form of pathology Written by two internationally recognized leaders in the field Focuses on the importance of ìpresenceî as the most important therapeutic foundation for working with bereaved individuals Includes questions for reflection and glossary of terms
Book Synopsis Family Stress Management by : Pauline Boss
Download or read book Family Stress Management written by Pauline Boss and published by SAGE Publications. This book was released on 2016-07-27 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Third Edition of Family Stress Management by Pauline Boss, Chalandra M. Bryant, and Jay A. Mancini continues its original commitment to recognize both the external and internal contexts in which distressed families find themselves. With its hallmark Contextual Model of Family Stress (CMFS), the Third Edition provides practitioners and researchers with a useful framework to understand and help distressed individuals, couples, and families. The example of a universal stressor—a death in the family—highlights cultural differences in ways of coping. Throughout, there is new emphasis on diversity and the nuances of family stress management—such as ambiguous loss—plus new discussions on family resilience and community as resources for support.
Download or read book All Gone written by Alex Witchel and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2012-09-27 with total page 169 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A daughter’s longing love letter to a mother who has slipped beyond reach. Just past seventy, Alex Witchel’s smart, adoring, ultracapable mother began to exhibit undeniable signs of dementia. Her smart, adoring, ultracapable daughter reacted as she’d been raised: If something was broken, they would fix it. But as medical reality undid that hope, and her mother continued the torturous process of disappearing in plain sight, Witchel retreated to the kitchen, trying to reclaim her mother at the stove by cooking the comforting foods of her childhood: “Is there any contract tighter than a family recipe?” Reproducing the perfect meat loaf was no panacea, but it helped Witchel come to terms with her predicament, the growing phenomenon of “ambiguous loss ”— loss of a beloved one who lives on. Gradually she developed a deeper appreciation for all the ways the parent she was losing lived on in her, starting with the daily commandment “Tell me everything that happened today” that started a future reporter and writer on her way. And she was inspired to turn her experience into this frank, bittersweet, and surprisingly funny account that offers true balm for an increasingly familiar form of heartbreak.
Book Synopsis Non-Death Loss and Grief by : Darcy L. Harris
Download or read book Non-Death Loss and Grief written by Darcy L. Harris and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2019-10-16 with total page 385 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Non-Death Loss and Grief offers an inclusive perspective on loss and grief, exploring recent research, clinical applications, and current thinking on non-death losses and the unique features of the grieving process that accompany them. The book places an overarching focus on the losses that we encounter in everyday life, and the role of these loss experiences in shaping us as we continue living. A main emphasis is the importance of having words to accurately express these ‘living losses’, such as loss of communication with a loved one due to disease or trauma, which are often not acknowledged for the depth of their impact. Chapters showcase a wide range of contributions from international leaders in the field and explore individual perspectives on loss as well as experiences that are more interpersonal and sociopolitical in nature. Illustrated by case studies and clinical examples throughout, this is a highly relevant text for clinicians looking to enhance their support of those living with ongoing loss and grief.
Book Synopsis Cognitive Grief Therapy by : Ruth Malkinson
Download or read book Cognitive Grief Therapy written by Ruth Malkinson and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2007 with total page 268 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Knowledge, skills, and intervention strategies for the treatment of individuals, couples, and families who have experienced a loss through death of their loved one.
Author :Judith L. M. McCoyd, PhD, LCSW, QCSW Publisher :Springer Publishing Company ISBN 13 :0826149642 Total Pages :304 pages Book Rating :4.8/5 (261 download)
Book Synopsis Grief and Loss Across the Lifespan by : Judith L. M. McCoyd, PhD, LCSW, QCSW
Download or read book Grief and Loss Across the Lifespan written by Judith L. M. McCoyd, PhD, LCSW, QCSW and published by Springer Publishing Company. This book was released on 2021-01-29 with total page 304 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Note to Readers: Publisher does not guarantee quality or access to any included digital components if book is purchased through a third-party seller. The third edition of this unrivaled text on loss, grief, and bereavement continues to provide a unique biopsychosocial perspective and developmental framework for understanding grieving patterns. Organized by a lifespan trajectory, this text describes developmental aspects of grieving, linking these theories to effective clinical work. Biopsychosocial developmental theories, including neurobiological and genetic information, frame chapters that include recent research on how people of that age respond to varied loss situations, and intervention strategies supported by practice experience and empirical evidence are addressed. The new edition illuminates special considerations in risk and resilience for each life phase, systematically addressing issues of oppression, marginalization, and health disparities. It includes a new chapter on grief and loss as they effect individuals over 85 and covers spiritual development for each life phase. The book restructures the adult chapters to reflect major changes in theories on expanded lifespans, adds to content on evolving living arrangements for aging individuals, and expands coverage of common losses at different points in the lifespan. This new edition includes material on ageism and its impact on health and also examines the challenges faced by older adults in the LGBT community. Additionally, the third edition explicitly incorporates the rapidly evolving science of Adverse Childhood Experiences, addressing how ACEs intersect with grief and loss. Vignettes and case studies are incorporated into each life-phase chapter, illuminating the lived experience of grief. Thought-provoking discussion questions, chapter objectives, and additional resources for both students and instructors reinforce critical thinking and an Instructor’s Manual, Casebook (of prior chapter readings), and PowerPoint slides are available for download. A free eBook is included with every text purchase. New to the Third Edition: Adds Special Considerations in Risk and Resilience to every chapter Incorporates Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES) and their effects at various life stages Focus on neurobiological and genomic aspects of health Includes a new chapter on the Fourth Age – from 85 up Discusses spiritual development for each life phase Incorporates new case studies Restructures adult chapters to reflect major new theories about expanded lifespans Welcomes a new author who adds content on the third and fourth ages of older adulthood, ageism, and the experience of aging in LGBT communities Expands content on areas of marginalization – race, gender, financial resources, educational disparities, and more Expands content on evolving living arrangements for older adults Expands information on typical losses at different life stages Delivers expanded web materials including a casebook of prior readings from earlier editions, in addition to PowerPoint slides and class plans and activities in the Instructor Manual Key Features: Provides a complete overview of classic and current grief theories Delivers a standardized developmental approach to each age group for consistency Presents practical intervention strategies for different life stages Includes chapter objectives, vignettes, case studies, and narratives to illustrate specific forms of loss Delivers abundant instructor resources including instructor’s guide with sample syllabus and exercises, PowerPoints, class activities, and suggested resources
Book Synopsis Loss of the Assumptive World by : Jeffrey Kauffman
Download or read book Loss of the Assumptive World written by Jeffrey Kauffman and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2013-05-13 with total page 262 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The assumptive world concept is a psychological principle of the conservation of human reality or "culture" - it is a lens for seeing the psychological disturbances that occur in times of change. In this collection, the authors examine the assumptive world from diverse theoretical perspectives, providing the reader with an array of different viewpoints illuminating the concept and its clinical usefulness.
Book Synopsis The Good Divorce by : Constance Ahrons
Download or read book The Good Divorce written by Constance Ahrons and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2009-10-06 with total page 536 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: It's never too late to have a good divorce Based on two decades of groundbreaking research, The Good Divorce presents the surprising finding that in more than fifty percent of divorces couples end their marriages, yet preserve their families. Dr. Ahrons shows couples how they can move beyond the confusing, even terrifying early stages of breakup and learn to deal with the transition from a nuclear to a "binuclear" family--one that spans two households and continues to meet the needs of children. The Good Divorce makes an important contribution to the ongoing "family values" debate by dispelling the myth that divorce inevitability leaves emotionally troubles children in its wake. It is a powerful tonic for the millions of divorcing and long-divorces parents who are tired of hearing only the damage reports. It will make us change the way we think about divorce and the way we divorce, reconfirming our commitment to children and families.
Book Synopsis Giving Grief Meaning by : Lily Dulan
Download or read book Giving Grief Meaning written by Lily Dulan and published by Mango Media Inc.. This book was released on 2020-12-01 with total page 154 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A therapist shares her memoir of survival after the death of her infant daughter and the process she developed to cope with her grief. How do you make sense of loss and tragedy? After the sudden and devastating loss of her infant daughter, Lily Dulan (a marriage and family therapist, psychotherapist, and certified yoga teacher) meditated, prayed, and ruminated on the only thing she had left—her baby girl’s name. In Lily’s courage to address and move through her pain, she developed a combination of proven psychological modalities, twelve-step wellness tools, spiritual healing applications, meditations, and ancient yoga. She calls this self-help process “The Name Work”. In her heartfelt memoir, Lily shares her healing journey and her method for unleashing the power in names and giving them special meaning to help move through the grief process in a thoughtful and transformative way. The Name Work method teaches you how to assign special meaning and qualities to the letters in names—a deceased loved one’s or your own—and how to create positive affirmations for each letter’s attribute. It is a tangible and personal self-healing method for whatever obstacles arise; a unique, new wellness tool for healing and self-discovery. Also includes: Affirmations, self-guided questions, meditations, and practices An A-Z dictionary of qualities to help create your own affirmations Life hacks for addictive behaviors and moving though trauma and loss A first-hand account of the author’s personal healing journey Praise for Giving Grief Meaning “Such a wise, gentle book, born of great loss, on healing, grief and transformation.” —Anne Lamott, New York Times–bestselling author of Dusk, Night, Dawn “Lily Dulan had to bear the unbearable, a loss that is every parent’s nightmare. This book relays her journey from the valley of excruciating pain to a peaceful life on the other side of it. She began the journey not knowing if peace would ever be hers again. She was rewarded for each step she took in trying to find it, discovering keys that indeed unlocked the way for her and which now she can share with others. For those still in earlier phases of grief, this book illuminates some mysterious ways a broken heart can heal.” —Marianne Williamson, #1 New York Times bestselling author of A Return to Love
