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When a Loved One Is Addicted

Author : Gregory L. Jantz Ph.D.
Publisher : Rose Publishing
ISBN 13 : 1649380720
Total Pages : 91 pages
Book Rating : 4.6/5 (493 download)

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Download or read book When a Loved One Is Addicted written by Gregory L. Jantz Ph.D. and published by Rose Publishing. This book was released on 2021-08-03 with total page 91 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Practical advice, trusted research, plus definitions, causes, and solutions to helping a loved one recover from addiction. You can be free of the harmful effects of a loved one’s addiction! Dr. Gregory Jantz believes every person can find a unique pathway through powerlessness, fear, guilt, shame, and despair back into the light and fresh air of freedom because God is the Great Healer, for whom anything is possible. Discover ways to: Recognize the difference between compassion and codependence Identify signs and symptoms of addictions, as well as types of addictions Make your own health and wellbeing a priority Stop enabling your loved one’s addiction Set boundaries and stick to them Hold a positive, productive intervention Find the right kind of treatment program Support your loved one in treatment and beyond By grounding yourself in a clear understanding of what addiction is, how and why it takes hold in someone’s life, and how to protect yourself while maintaining your love for them, you’ll be far better equipped to offer appropriate help. This book will help you gain the awareness you need to move forward in truth and grace, to succeed at what you can do: love the addict unconditionally and be a positive presence in their life, guided by healthy boundaries that protect everyone. Key Features: Trustworthy: Filled with up-to-date research, this solid resource provides trusted facts and proven advice to help a loved one with addiction Relevant: Whether your loved one is dealing with a substance, emotional, or behavior addiction, this resource includes advice broad enough to help with most addictions and specific enough to tackle root causes effectively Easy to Read: Packed with summaries, checklists, and bullet lists, it’s never been easier to digest practical and informative research Practical: Includes practical courses of action to take when helping a friend or family member along the recovery process Easy to Carry: Compact, lightweight, and easily fits in your hand, purse, and bag

Unhooked: How to Help An Addicted Loved One Recover

Author : Jason Coombs
Publisher :
ISBN 13 : 9780578630076
Total Pages : 278 pages
Book Rating : 4.6/5 (3 download)

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Book Synopsis Unhooked: How to Help An Addicted Loved One Recover by : Jason Coombs

Download or read book Unhooked: How to Help An Addicted Loved One Recover written by Jason Coombs and published by . This book was released on 2019-05-15 with total page 278 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Is someone you love addicted? Have you found yourself wondering if all efforts to "help" or "fix" your loved one are really going in the right direction? Addictions to prescription meds, opioids, alcohol and other substances are growing at exponential rates and ripping our families apart. What are the best strategies to help someone in bondage to a substance that drive real results? When Jason Coombs' mother discovered her son was addicted to drugs and alcohol, she searched everywhere for resources and guidance that would grant her a spark of hope. She researched websites on the topic only to find a mixed bag of mediocre suggestions and an array of conflicting opinions. She was desperate for tools that could drive measurable results. Yet, her seemingly endless search for helpful guidance led her down a rabbit hole with no end in sight. Unhooked is the book, written by her recovered son, now leading his own treatment center, she wishes would have been available back then.

Addict in the Family

Author : Beverly Conyers
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
ISBN 13 : 1616499559
Total Pages : 208 pages
Book Rating : 4.6/5 (164 download)

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Download or read book Addict in the Family written by Beverly Conyers and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2021-10-26 with total page 208 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The family recovery classic, Addict in the Family, has been revised and updated to offer parents and other family members even greater support when faced with the reality of a loved one’s addiction. Solid, actionable advice and information about what helps and what doesn’t—and how to care for themselves—make this an indispensable guide. For families of addicts, fear, shame, and confusion over a loved one’s addiction can cause deep anxiety, sleepless nights, and even physical illness. The emotional distress family members suffer is often compounded by the belief that they somehow caused or contributed to their loved one’s addiction—or that they could have done something to prevent it. Addict in the Family is a book about the pain of addiction, but more importantly it is a book of comfort, understanding, and hope for anyone struggling with a loved one’s addiction. As the compelling personal stories reveal, family members do not cause their loved one’s addiction—nor can they control or cure it. What family members can do is find support, set boundaries, detach with love, and eventually discover how to enjoy life more fully. This book helps them do just that—whether the loved one achieves recovery or not.

Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself

Author : Candace Plattor
Publisher : Being At Choice Consultants
ISBN 13 : 0981385087
Total Pages : 184 pages
Book Rating : 4.9/5 (813 download)

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Download or read book Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself written by Candace Plattor and published by Being At Choice Consultants. This book was released on 2016-10-28 with total page 184 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are you feeling exasperated and helpless about your family member's addiction? Are you at your wit's end, having tried everything you can think of to make them stop? If someone you love is engaging in addictive behaviors such as alcohol and drug misuse, eating disorders, smoking, gambling, Internet addiction, sex addiction, compulsive overspending, or relationship addiction, you are undoubtedly experiencing unpredictability in your relationship. Some of the most common emotions you will experience include: - Guilt and shame - Anger and anxiety - Confusion and powerlessness Whether the addict in your life is your spouse, partner, parent, child, friend, or colleague, the key to changing this reality for yourself lies in shifting your focus from your loved one's addiction to you own self-care. This book presents a dramatically fresh approach to help you get off the roller-coaster chaos of addiction, maintain your own sanity and serenity, and live your best life.

Praying for Your Addicted Loved One

Author : Sharron K. Cosby
Publisher :
ISBN 13 : 9781624800719
Total Pages : 0 pages
Book Rating : 4.8/5 (7 download)

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Download or read book Praying for Your Addicted Loved One written by Sharron K. Cosby and published by . This book was released on 2013-09-09 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Watching someone you love self-destruct hurts. Praying for Your Addicted Loved One: 90 in 90 provides ninety devotions of strength, hope, and encouragement to families coping with addiction. Realizing you're not alone in your struggles brings comfort and confidence to face day-to-day challenges. The overall message of Praying for Your Addicted Loved One conveys hope to families caught in the cycles of addiction. The various stages of the disease: abuse, recovery, and relapse, take their toll on families. Hopelessness grabs a family's heart and wrings it out with each slip of clean or sober time. The verses in Jeremiah 30 and 31, the foundation of the book, offer promises of restoration and redemption. 90 in 90 reflects the 12 Step model of attending 90 meetings in 90 days. While your loved one attends meetings, you will read a daily devotional to lend spiritual support. "Today I pray for other lost addicts to find the hope of recovery. I pray the families reading this book will continue to have hope that an addict-any addict-can stop using drugs and find a new way to live. If there is one thing I can say to family members it is, never quit fighting. There is always hope. With hope, I, a once hopeless dope addict, am now a dope-less hope addict." Josh Cosby

Get Your Loved One Sober

Author : Robert J Meyers
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
ISBN 13 : 1592857752
Total Pages : 156 pages
Book Rating : 4.5/5 (928 download)

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Download or read book Get Your Loved One Sober written by Robert J Meyers and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2009-07-30 with total page 156 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The first general consumer book ever on the powerful, award-winning, scientifically proven new system of intervention that is turning the recovery field on its head. Historically there have been few options available for individuals seeking help for treatment-resistant loved ones suffering from substance abuse. Co-author Dr. Robert Meyers spent ten years developing a treatment program that helps concerned significant others bth improve the quality of their lives and learn how to make treatment an attractive option for their partners who are substance abusers. Get Your Loved One Sober describes this multi-faceted program that uses supportive, non-confrontational methods to engage substance abusers into treatment. Called Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT), the program uses scientifically validated behavioral principles to reduce the loved one's substance use and to encourage him or her to seek treatment. Equally important, CRAFT also helps loved ones reduce personal stress and introduce meaningful, new sources of satisfaction into their life. Key Features: --CRAFT is more effective than other types of interventions.This breakthrough new system is sweeping the recovery field. This is its first introduction to the general public. --Contains simple exercises readers can practice at their own pace, with no costly or heart-breaking interventions. --Proven successful for numerous addictions, not just alcoholism.

My Loved One is An Addict. Now What?

Author : Jonathan Okinaga, PhD
Publisher : Independently Published
ISBN 13 :
Total Pages : 112 pages
Book Rating : 4.6/5 (663 download)

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Book Synopsis My Loved One is An Addict. Now What? by : Jonathan Okinaga, PhD

Download or read book My Loved One is An Addict. Now What? written by Jonathan Okinaga, PhD and published by Independently Published. This book was released on 2020-07-14 with total page 112 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: One of the most heartbreaking things that can happen to a parent or spouse is the realization that their child/spouse is struggling with substance abuse. Feelings of shame, guilt, anger, frustration, and fear are common emotions when a family finally comes to grip with the fact that their loved one is an addict. These emotions may contribute to the unfortunate action of sweeping the addiction under the rug. Whispers may happen at family gatherings during the holidays about a loved one being sent off to treatment, or being arrested for a DUI, but rarely is it something that is openly discussed. There is shame that overtakes the immediate family and the quicker it can be forgotten the better it is for everyone. What I am here to tell you is that addiction is not as rare as you may think. It ravages families of all socioeconomic standings, races, religions and creeds. Substance abuse has recently overtaken car accidents in deaths per year in America. The War on Drugs started in the 1980s and it is an abject failure. It's time to talk about addictions and what families can do to help their loved ones. Before I go any further, a question needs to be answered. Why should anyone trust what I have to say on the topic? After battling substance abuse from my teens. In 2007, at the age of 30, I finally gained sobriety. I have maintained sobriety since May 6, 2007 and have worked in the recovery field since 2008. I have been employed and interned at one of the most respected dual diagnosis drug and alcohol treatment centers in America. I was on the front lines running sober-living homes as a house manager/life coach during the peak of the opioid epidemic for four years. I established my own sober-life coaching center and have been a recovery pastor since 2010. For years, families of those that I worked with have been asking me to write a book to help others. After completing my undergraduate, Masters, and Ph.D. in under eight years, I finally had the time to commit. I decided to write a book for the families of addicts for this reason: When I first admitted to my parents that I was a drug addict and needed help, they had no idea what to do. They called their church, the state convention for their denomination, and other friends they could trust. No one had an answer or idea what steps to take next. As I have worked with families through the years, the same can be said today. There are many resources for the addict but not much help for the families. My hope and prayer is that this book will equip, teach, and allow families to not only understand addictions, but also provide a stable home to assist their loved one to live a life free from substance abuse.

Beyond Addiction

Author : Jeffrey Foote
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
ISBN 13 : 1476709475
Total Pages : 336 pages
Book Rating : 4.4/5 (767 download)

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Download or read book Beyond Addiction written by Jeffrey Foote and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2014-02-18 with total page 336 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Leading innovators in progressive addiction treatment outline a science-based program for overcoming addiction-related problems, demonstrating how to effectively use positive reinforcement and motivational and behavioral strategies. (Self-Help)

Reaching Your Addicted Loved One

Author : Víctor Torres
Publisher : Whitaker House
ISBN 13 : 1641231017
Total Pages : 224 pages
Book Rating : 4.6/5 (412 download)

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Download or read book Reaching Your Addicted Loved One written by Víctor Torres and published by Whitaker House. This book was released on 2019-01-08 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: As a teenager, Victor Torres was a gang warlord and heroin addict on New York City’s violent streets. Through the ministry of David Wilkerson and Nicky Cruz, Victor had a life-changing encounter with Jesus Christ and came to realize that God had a purpose for his life. Victor has spent the last forty-five years helping tens of thousands of young men and women find freedom from drug addiction and gang life. Now, he answers your toughest questions about your addicted loved one. Without pulling punches or promising easy answers, Victor provides wisdom and expertise that can lead you toward success. Some of the questions Victor addresses are… How can I know if my loved one has a substance abuse problem? How can I tell the difference between helping and enabling? What if my loved one refuses to get help? When should I call the police? What should we look for in a treatment program? What can I expect when my loved one comes out of treatment? How do I prepare for relapse? God did not create your loved one to be an addict or a loser. On the contrary, God created him or her for a better life. Although, for the moment, it may seem like you are losing your loved one, they still have a God-given destiny and a purpose. No matter how bad the picture may look now, there is always hope.

Prodependence

Author : Robert Weiss
Publisher : Health Communications, Inc.
ISBN 13 : 075732035X
Total Pages : 170 pages
Book Rating : 4.7/5 (573 download)

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Download or read book Prodependence written by Robert Weiss and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 2018-09-18 with total page 170 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Prodependence," a new psychological term created by Robert Weiss to describe healthy interdependence in the modern world, turns this around. Rather that preaching detachment and distance over continued bonding and assistance, as so many therapists, self-help books, and 12-step groups currently do, prodependence celebrates the human need for and pursuit of intimate connection, viewing this as a positive force for change. Simply stated, prodependence occurs when attachment relationships are mutually beneficial--with one person's strengths filling in the weak points of the other, and vice versa. And this can occur even when an addiction is present

Loving Someone in Recovery

Author : Beverly Berg
Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
ISBN 13 : 1608829006
Total Pages : 159 pages
Book Rating : 4.6/5 (88 download)

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Download or read book Loving Someone in Recovery written by Beverly Berg and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2014-02-02 with total page 159 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Recovering addicts are faced with many challenges, and these challenges can often extend to their romantic partners. During the recovery period, couples often struggle with overcoming feelings of betrayal and frustration, and may have a hard time rebuilding trust and closeness. While there are many resources available to recovering addicts, there are limited resources for the people who love them. In Loving Someone in Recovery, therapist Beverly Berg offers powerful tools for the partners of recovering addicts. Based in mindfulness, attachment theory, and neurobiology, this book will help readers sustain emotional stability in their relationships, increase effective communication, establish boundaries, and take real steps toward reigniting intimacy. The material in this book is drawn from the author’s successful Conscious Couples Recovery Workshop. With more than 25 years in the field, she has developed a unique set of exercises that address the issues faced by couples in recovery. This book addresses the roles that both partners play in recovery, and aims to help readers develop a new appreciation for one another and improve self-confidence and acceptance. The road to recovery is never an easy one, but by building a strong support system, the chances of success are exponentially greater. For more information on Berg’s work, visit consciouscouplesrecovery.com

Recovering My Kid

Author : Joseph Lee
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
ISBN 13 : 1616494530
Total Pages : 250 pages
Book Rating : 4.6/5 (164 download)

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Download or read book Recovering My Kid written by Joseph Lee and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2012-11-01 with total page 250 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: National expert Dr. Joseph Lee explains the nature of youth addiction and treatment, and how families can create a safe and supportive environment for their loved ones during treatment and throughout their recovery. National expert Dr. Joseph Lee explains the nature of youth addiction and treatment, and how families can create a safe and supportive environment for their loved ones during treatment and throughout recovery.Raising a child is tough as it is, but when your kid becomes addicted to alcohol or other drugs, it can feel as if you’re living a nightmare. You’re not alone. In Recovering My Kid, Dr. Joseph Lee, a leading youth addiction specialist, takes worried, confused, and angry parents by the hand and addresses their most pressing questions and fears: What is addiction? What happens when my child returns home from treatment? How can my family support his or her recovery? What if my child relapses? How can my family get well again?Getting your child and your family well again requires the support and understanding of the whole family, even if feelings and trust were damaged. In his engaging and straightforward style, Lee explains the difficult concepts of addiction, treatment, and recovery in a way parents and families can understand and gives them concrete strategies they can put into practice.This book will help family members begin to understand what their loved one is going through and how they can help the addict adjust to a clean-and-sober life while still taking care of themselves.

The Complete Family Guide to Addiction

Author : Thomas F. Harrison
Publisher : Guilford Publications
ISBN 13 : 1462539645
Total Pages : 274 pages
Book Rating : 4.4/5 (625 download)

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Download or read book The Complete Family Guide to Addiction written by Thomas F. Harrison and published by Guilford Publications. This book was released on 2019-06-14 with total page 274 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "The purpose of this book is to explain addiction and to help families and friends to deal with it successfully. People who are struggling with addiction can also use this book to understand their situation and the resources that are available to help them. And people who are wondering if they might have an addiction can use it to get a better sense of the nature and depth of their potential problem. Part I explains the science behind addiction. Part II looks at the emotional side of the problem and how families are affected. Part III discusses many of the real-world legal and practical issues that addicts often face, and ways to keep them out of trouble. Part IV provides a detailed overview of treatment options. And Part V describes the recovery process and the most effective strategies to keep it going for the long term"--

Sally's Baking Addiction

Author : Sally McKenney
Publisher : Race Point Publishing
ISBN 13 : 0760353735
Total Pages : 192 pages
Book Rating : 4.7/5 (63 download)

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Download or read book Sally's Baking Addiction written by Sally McKenney and published by Race Point Publishing. This book was released on 2016-10-11 with total page 192 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Updated with a brand-new selection of desserts and treats, the fully illustrated Sally's Baking Addiction cookbook offers more than 80 scrumptious recipes for indulging your sweet tooth—featuring a chapter of healthier dessert options, including some vegan and gluten-free recipes. It's no secret that Sally McKenney loves to bake. Her popular blog, Sally's Baking Addiction, has become a trusted source for fellow dessert lovers who are also eager to bake from scratch. Sally's famous recipes include award-winning Salted Caramel Dark Chocolate Cookies, No-Bake Peanut Butter Banana Pie, delectable Dark Chocolate Butterscotch Cupcakes, and yummy Marshmallow Swirl S'mores Fudge. Find tried-and-true sweet recipes for all kinds of delicious: Breads & Muffins Breakfasts Brownies & Bars Cakes, Pies & Crisps Candy & Sweet Snacks Cookies Cupcakes Healthier Choices With tons of simple, easy-to-follow recipes, you get all of the sweet with none of the fuss! Hungry for more? Learn to create even more irresistible sweets with Sally’s Candy Addiction and Sally’s Cookie Addiction.

Addict in the House

Author : Robin Barnett
Publisher : New Harbinger Publications
ISBN 13 : 1626252629
Total Pages : 192 pages
Book Rating : 4.6/5 (262 download)

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Download or read book Addict in the House written by Robin Barnett and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2016-08-01 with total page 192 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "This is a straightforward, rich resource for anyone who lives with, and loves, an addict." —Publishers Weekly Everyone suffers when there’s an addict in the family. Written by an expert in alcohol and drug addiction and recovery, this no-nonsense guide will help you understand the causes of addiction, end enabling behaviors, support your loved one’s recovery, and learn how to cope with relapses. If you’re the family member of an addict, you may feel confused, guilty, and scared of doing the wrong thing. And when you don’t know how to help, you may find yourself in a codependent role, trying so hard to keep your addicted loved one alive, out of jail, or emotionally appeased that you may actually prevent them from realizing they need help. Drawing on her own personal experience with her brother’s addiction, Addict in the House offers a pragmatic, step-by-step guide to dealing with a loved one’s addiction, from accepting the reality of the disease to surviving what may be repeated cycles of recovery and relapse. You’ll learn how to encourage your addicted loved one to get help without forcing it, and finally find the strength to let go of codependence. With this revealing and straightforward book, you’ll have the support you need to take an honest look at how addiction has affected the family, cope with the emotional hurdles of having an addicted family member, create and maintain firm boundaries, and make informed decisions about how to best help your loved one.

Addiction to Love

Author : Susan Peabody
Publisher : Celestial Arts
ISBN 13 : 0307781305
Total Pages : 217 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (77 download)

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Download or read book Addiction to Love written by Susan Peabody and published by Celestial Arts. This book was released on 2011-04-13 with total page 217 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Love addiction manifests in many forms, from Fatal Attraction-type obsessive lust to less extreme but nonetheless psychologically and emotionally harmful forms. The most common of these is staying in a bad relationship because of a fear of being alone-the "I hate you but don't leave me" relationship. In ADDICTION TO LOVE, recovering love addict Susan Peabody explains the variety of ways this disorder plays out, from the obsessively doting love addict to the addict who can't disentangle from an unfulfilling, dead-end relationship. Peabody provides an in-depth and easy-to-follow recovery program for those suffering from this unhealthy and often dangerous addiction and explains how to create a loving, safe, and fulfilling relationship. • A seminal work on unhealthy and obsessive behaviors in love, and how to change behavior to have a positive relationship. This third edition includes a new introduction and revisions to the text throughout. • Some symptoms of love addiction include love at first sight, excessive fantasizing, abnormal jealousy, nagging, and accepting dishonesty. • Even relationships with parents, children, siblings, or friends may be addictive-dependency is not always related to romantic love. • Previous editions have sold more than 40,000 copies. "Love addiction is a three-headed serpent that Susan Peabody adeptly slays. This is the quintessential book for any love addict or counselor needing to fully understand this highly prevalent and complex disorder. Susan detects and dissects aspects of this condition not comprehended in other books of its kind. Recovery is possible. This book makes it possible to take the succinct steps necessary toward a loving and reciprocal long-term intimate relationship." —Sudi Scull, M.F.T., C.N., psychotherapist and nutritionist

It Will Never Happen to Me!

Author : Claudia Black, Ph.D
Publisher : Ballantine Books
ISBN 13 : 0345345940
Total Pages : 226 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (453 download)

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Download or read book It Will Never Happen to Me! written by Claudia Black, Ph.D and published by Ballantine Books. This book was released on 1987-09-12 with total page 226 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This "little green book," as it has come to be known to hundreds of thousands of C.O.A.'s and A.C.O.A.'s, is meant to help the reader understand the roles children in alcoholic families adopt, the problems they face in adulthood as a result, and what they can do to break the pattern of destruction.