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Emotional Cutoff

Author : Peter Titelman
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN 13 : 1317788664
Total Pages : 510 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (177 download)

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Download or read book Emotional Cutoff written by Peter Titelman and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-05-12 with total page 510 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Widen your therapeutic focus and help your family therapy clients learn to bridge generational separation! This book delivers professional insights on one of the least understood but most important of Bowen's concepts—emotional cutoff. The first book on this subject, Emotional Cutoff: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives examines this aspect of Bowen family system theory and shows how emotional cutoff can be understood and addressed in therapy. Emotional Cutoff also provides beneficial case examples, empirically based studies, helpful figures, and family diagrams. This information-packed volume includes a chapter by the developers of Family of Origin Response Survey (FORS)—an instrument that measures the degree to which one is emotionally reactive to their mother or father—that outlines the process and its scoring methodology and demonstrates its reliability. The book also includes chapters on emotional cutoff and societal processes—and even how emotional cutoff manifests in the animal kingdom! From the editor: “In this book, the phenomenon of emotional cutoff is explored from many perspectives. The contributors have illustrated the presence of cutoff in non-human species, in relation to evolutionary theory, brain physiology, reproduction, in the lives of therapists and the individuals and families they work with in clinical practice, and in societal emotional process—in a variety of contexts. In addition, the development of an instrument for measuring emotional cutoff is presented.” Emotional Cutoff is a comprehensive examination of this fascinating aspect of Bowen family systems theory, including: a theoretical overview—as well as a look at cutoff in various animal species and an examination of the way the physiology of the human brain is related to the phenomenon of emotional cutoff bridging emotional cutoff in the therapist's own family, as related by three Bowen systems therapists and a genealogist who is trained in Bowen theory—essential reading for all therapists! research and clinical applications—including interventions you can put into practice right away with clients who are dealing with divorce, depression, domestic violence, or child abuse societal applications—a look at emotional cutoff and societal process in Russian citizens, in Holocaust survivors, in immigrants, and in Israeli/Palestinian relations Emotional Cutoff: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives provides exciting possibilities for treating emotional cutoff in people trying to manage their unresolved issues. It is an essential resource for family therapists, counselors, pastoral counselors, family-oriented psychologists, social workers, psychiatrists, and psychiatric nurses.

Emotional Cutoff

Author : Peter Titelman
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN 13 : 1317788656
Total Pages : 530 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (177 download)

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Download or read book Emotional Cutoff written by Peter Titelman and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-05-12 with total page 530 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Widen your therapeutic focus and help your family therapy clients learn to bridge generational separation! This book delivers professional insights on one of the least understood but most important of Bowen's conceptsemotional cutoff. The first book on this subject, Emotional Cutoff: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives examines this aspect of Bowen family system theory and shows how emotional cutoff can be understood and addressed in therapy. Emotional Cutoff also provides beneficial case examples, empirically based studies, helpful figures, and family diagrams. This information-packed volume includes a chapter by the developers of Family of Origin Response Survey (FORS)an instrument that measures the degree to which one is emotionally reactive to their mother or fatherthat outlines the process and its scoring methodology and demonstrates its reliability. The book also includes chapters on emotional cutoff and societal processesand even how emotional cutoff manifests in the animal kingdom! From the editor: In this book, the phenomenon of emotional cutoff is explored from many perspectives. The contributors have illustrated the presence of cutoff in non-human species, in relation to evolutionary theory, brain physiology, reproduction, in the lives of therapists and the individuals and families they work with in clinical practice, and in societal emotional processin a variety of contexts. In addition, the development of an instrument for measuring emotional cutoff is presented. Emotional Cutoff is a comprehensive examination of this fascinating aspect of Bowen family systems theory, including: a theoretical overviewas well as a look at cutoff in various animal species and an examination of the way the physiology of the human brain is related to the phenomenon of emotional cutoff bridging emotional cutoff in the therapist's own family, as related by three Bowen systems therapists and a genealogist who is trained in Bowen theoryessential reading for all therapists! research and clinical applicationsincluding interventions you can put into practice right away with clients who are dealing with divorce, depression, domestic violence, or child abuse societal applicationsa look at emotional cutoff and societal process in Russian citizens, in Holocaust survivors, in immigrants, and in Israeli/Palestinian relations Emotional Cutoff: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives provides exciting possibilities for treating emotional cutoff in people trying to manage their unresolved issues. It is an essential resource for family therapists, counselors, pastoral counselors, family-oriented psychologists, social workers, psychiatrists, and psychiatric nurses.

Theory-Directed Nursing Practice

Author : Shirley Melat Ziegler
Publisher : Springer Publishing Company
ISBN 13 : 9780826176325
Total Pages : 316 pages
Book Rating : 4.1/5 (763 download)

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Download or read book Theory-Directed Nursing Practice written by Shirley Melat Ziegler and published by Springer Publishing Company. This book was released on 2005-04-26 with total page 316 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The second edition of this popular textbook continues to demonstrate the application of theory to nursing practice, presenting a clear strategy for choosing and applying specific theories to specific clinical situations. Each chapter follows a common format: a case is presented, along with several possible theories that might be applied to it. Each theory includes a concise description, with references and recommended readings for those who want more in-depth coverage. Finally one theory is selected for each case and is described in detail, ultimately creating a nursing care plan, with support from the theory. In all, nearly 10 middle-range theories are presented. New to this edition is a selection in each chapter about research supporting the theories discussed. In recognition that a case study format can not encompass all practice circumstances, the final chapter provides the framework for using the strategy in any clinical situation.

The Interactive World of Severe Mental Illness

Author : Diana J. Semmelhack
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN 13 : 1317802853
Total Pages : 255 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (178 download)

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Download or read book The Interactive World of Severe Mental Illness written by Diana J. Semmelhack and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2015-07-03 with total page 255 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In our society, medication is often seen as the treatment for severe mental illness, with psychotherapy a secondary treatment. However, quality social interaction may be as important for the recovery of those with severe mental illness as are treatments. This volume makes this point while describing the emotionally moving lives of eight individuals with severe mental illness as they exist in the U.S. mental health system. Offering social and psychological insight into their experiences, these stories demonstrate how patients can create meaningful lives in the face of great difficulties. Based on in-depth interviews with clients with severe mental illness, this volume explores which structures of interaction encourage growth for people with severe mental illness, and which trigger psychological damage. It considers the clients’ relationships with friends, family, peers, spouses, lovers, co-workers, mental health professionals, institutions, the community, and the society as a whole. It focuses specifically on how structures of social interaction can promote or harm psychological growth, and how interaction dynamics affect the psychological well-being of individuals with severe mental illness.

Clinical Applications of Bowen Family Systems Theory

Author : Peter Titelman
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN 13 : 1317790375
Total Pages : 448 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (177 download)

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Download or read book Clinical Applications of Bowen Family Systems Theory written by Peter Titelman and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-02-25 with total page 448 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: One look inside Clinical Applications of Bowen Family Systems Theory, and you’ll see that your most current clinical dilemmas are not as difficult to solve as you think. You’ll find plenty of information to assist you in treating a vast audience of populations--the elderly, college students, troubled couples, remarried families, and children with severe medical problems. You’ll also find that you’re able to apply the Bowen systems theory to nearly every clinical situation--emotional dysfunction in children, alcoholism, incest, divorce, depression, phobias, and obsessive-compulsive disorders. Clinical Applications of Bowen Family Systems Theory is an ideal companion for family therapists, clinical psychologists, clinical social workers, psychiatrists, psychiatric nurses, and counselors. You’ll find your working comprehension of Murray Bowen’s work will grow, and you’ll become more adept at applying what you read in real-life clinical situations, especially in these related areas: family systems assessment based on the Bowen Theory marital fusion and differentiation bridging emotional cut-off from a former spouse dealing with a child-focused divorce case studies of alcoholism and family systems Clinical Applications of Bowen Family Systems Theory is the first book to collect, illustrate, and walk you through a full application of this highly effective treatment method in any number of clinical settings. Both beginning and experienced therapists will find interesting reading in the history of the theory, and the result will be interested clients who begin to create functional, thriving personal histories for themselves.

Family Evaluation

Author : Murray Bowen
Publisher : W. W. Norton & Company
ISBN 13 : 0393075559
Total Pages : 420 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (93 download)

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Download or read book Family Evaluation written by Murray Bowen and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2009-08-01 with total page 420 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The concepts of Murray Bowen, one of the founders of family therapy and the originator of family systems theory, are brought together here in an integrative fashion. Michael Kerr (who worked with Bowen for many years) and Bowen propose that the enormously complex task of evaluating a clinical family can be orderly when it is grounded in family systems theory. Using family diagrams and case studies, the book is devoted to an elegant explication of Bowen theory, which analyzes multigenerational family relationships and conceptualizes the family as an emotional unit or as a network of interlocking relationships, not only among the family members, but also among biological, psychological, and sociological processes. Bowen’s persistent inquiry and devotion to family observation, in spite of obstacles and frustrations, have resulted in a theory that has radically changed our ways of looking at all behavior.

Differentiation of Self

Author : Peter Titelman
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN 13 : 1136328491
Total Pages : 356 pages
Book Rating : 4.1/5 (363 download)

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Download or read book Differentiation of Self written by Peter Titelman and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-12-05 with total page 356 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Bowen theory views the family as an emotional unit. The family is a natural system that has evolved, like all living systems. The elegance and unity of the concept of differentiation of self, and of Bowen theory in its entirety, is that they describe the basis of individual functioning in relation to others within the emotional systems of family, occupation, community, and larger society. This volume consists of essays elucidating and applying differentiation of self, the central concept of Bowen family systems theory and therapy. The purpose of the volume is fourfold: • to describe the historical evolution of differentiation of self • to analyze the complex dimension of this concept as the integrating cornerstone of Bowen theory • to present applications of the concept for both the therapist/coach and in clinical practice • to examine the problems and possibilities of researching differentiation of self The largest part of this volume is the presentation of in-depth case studies of clients or therapists in their efforts to differentiate or define self. This provides an understanding of the what and how that go into the differentiation of self. Contributed to by professionals who have studied, applied, and taught Bowen theory in their own lives, practices, educational settings, and training settings, this volume is a must-have for any therapist/coach working within a systems perspective.

Louise Erdrich

Author : Deborah L. Madsen
Publisher : Bloomsbury Publishing
ISBN 13 : 1441156968
Total Pages : 209 pages
Book Rating : 4.4/5 (411 download)

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Download or read book Louise Erdrich written by Deborah L. Madsen and published by Bloomsbury Publishing. This book was released on 2011-09-01 with total page 209 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Leading scholars critically explore three leading novels by Louise Erdrich, one of the most important and popular Native American writers working today.

Bowen Theory's Secrets: Revealing the Hidden Life of Families

Author : Michael E. Kerr
Publisher : W. W. Norton & Company
ISBN 13 : 0393713628
Total Pages : 446 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (937 download)

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Download or read book Bowen Theory's Secrets: Revealing the Hidden Life of Families written by Michael E. Kerr and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2019-02-05 with total page 446 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A much-needed update to one of the most significant family therapy theories of the past century. Murray Bowen (1931–1990) was the first to study the family in a live-in setting and describe specific details about how families function as systems. Despite Bowen theory being based on research begun more than seventy years ago, the value of viewing human beings as profoundly emotionally-driven creatures and human families functioning as emotional units is more relevant than ever. This book, written by one of his closet collaborators, updates his still-radical theory with the latest approaches to understanding emotional development. Reduced to its most fundamental level, Bowen theory explains how people begin a relationship very close emotionally but become more distant over time. The ideas also help explain why good people do bad things, and bad people do good things, and how family life strengthens some members while weakening others. Gaining knowledge about previously unseen specifics of family interactions reveals a hidden life of families. The hidden life explains how the best of intentions can fail to produce the desired result, thus providing a blueprint for change. Part I of the book explains the core ideas in the theory. Part II describes the process of differentiation of self, which is the most important application of Bowen theory. People sometimes think of theories as "ivory tower" productions: interesting, but not necessarily practical. Differentiation of self is anything but; it has a well-tested real-world application. Part II includes four long case presentations of families in the public eye. They help illustrate how Bowen theory can help explain how families—three of which appear fairly normal and one which does not—unwittingly produce an offspring that chronically manifests some time of severely aberrant behavior. Finally, the book proposes a new "unidisease" concept—the idea that a wide range of diseases have a number of physiological processes in common. In an Epilogue, Kerr applies Bowen theory to his family to illustrate how changes in a family relationship system over time can better explain the clinical course of a chronic illness than the diagnosis itself. With close to four thousand hours of therapy conducted with about thirty-five hundred families over decades, Michael Kerr is an expert guide to the ins and outs of this most influential way of approaching clinical work with families.

Handbook of Family and Marital Therapy

Author : Sharon A. Shueman
Publisher : Springer Science & Business Media
ISBN 13 : 1468444425
Total Pages : 484 pages
Book Rating : 4.4/5 (684 download)

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Download or read book Handbook of Family and Marital Therapy written by Sharon A. Shueman and published by Springer Science & Business Media. This book was released on 2012-12-06 with total page 484 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Family and marital therapies are rapidly becoming highly used methods of treatment of mental disorders and are no longer ancillary methods to individual psychotherapy. The last few decades have brought about an increasing awareness of the fact that, excluding organic etiology, practically all mental disorders are caused, fostered, and/or related to faulty interpersonal relations. As a rule, the .earlier in life one is exposed to noxious factors, the more severe is the damage. Thus, early child-parents' and child-siblings' interactions are highly relevant determinants of mental health and mental disorder. Moreover, parents themselves do not live in a vacuum. Their marital interaction significantly contributes to their own mental health or to its decline, and parent-child relationships are greatly influenced by the nature of intraparental relationships. Parental discord, conflicts, and abandonment affect the child's personality development. Thus, family and marital therapy is more than therapy; it is an important contribution to the prevention of mental disorder. The present volume is comprised of three parts. The first, primarily theoretical, analyzes the fundamental aspects of marital and family therapy. The second part describes the various therapeutic techniques and the last deals with several specific issues. It gives me great pleasure to acknowledge my gratitude to my coeditor, Dr. George Stricker. Without his thorough and devoted efforts, this volume could not have come into being. I am also profoundly indebted to our consulting editors, Dr. James Framo, Dr.

Handbook of Bowen Family Systems Theory and Research Methods

Author : Mignonette N. Keller
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN 13 : 1351103261
Total Pages : 510 pages
Book Rating : 4.3/5 (511 download)

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Download or read book Handbook of Bowen Family Systems Theory and Research Methods written by Mignonette N. Keller and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2019-12-18 with total page 510 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Handbook of Bowen Family Systems Theory and Research Methods presents innovative approaches on a range of issues inherent in family research and discusses the links between theory, data collection, and data analysis based on Bowen family systems theory. This multi-authored volume discusses core issues within family systems theory, including anxiety, stress, emotional cutoff, differentiation of self, multigenerational transmission process, and nuclear family emotional process. Chapters also examine related constructs in the research literature such as adaptation, resilience, social support, social networks, and intergenerational family relations. Readers will be able to view theoretical and methodological issues from the perspective of Bowen theory and develop a clearer knowledge of ways to navigate the challenges faced when studying individual, familial, and societal problems. An essential resource for clinicians and researchers in the social and natural sciences, the Handbook of Bowen Family Systems Theory and Research Methods provides a comprehensive framework for understanding the application of Bowen theory to family practice and family research.

Family and Self

Author : Robert J. Noone
Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN 13 : 1793628157
Total Pages : 234 pages
Book Rating : 4.7/5 (936 download)

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Download or read book Family and Self written by Robert J. Noone and published by Rowman & Littlefield. This book was released on 2021-10-21 with total page 234 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Family psychiatrist and researcher Murray Bowen’s effort to contribute to a science of human behavior, led to the famous Family Study Project at NIMH and the later development of a formal theory of the family and its clinical application. Later known as Bowen theory, it represented a radical departure from the individualistic paradigm predominant in psychiatry. Following Bowen’s mode, this book examines the interplay between the individual and the family in shaping the differential capacity to effectively adapt to life’s many challenges.

Analyses of Cultural Productions: Papers of 30th Conference of Psyart Porto, 2013

Author : Bastos José Gabriel Pereira
Publisher : Lulu.com
ISBN 13 : 9899874523
Total Pages : 306 pages
Book Rating : 4.8/5 (998 download)

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Download or read book Analyses of Cultural Productions: Papers of 30th Conference of Psyart Porto, 2013 written by Bastos José Gabriel Pereira and published by Lulu.com. This book was released on with total page 306 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:

Foundational Concepts and Models of Family Therapy

Author : Yulia Watters
Publisher : Taylor & Francis
ISBN 13 : 1000921514
Total Pages : 432 pages
Book Rating : 4.0/5 (9 download)

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Download or read book Foundational Concepts and Models of Family Therapy written by Yulia Watters and published by Taylor & Francis. This book was released on 2023-08-08 with total page 432 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This textbook aims to introduce students to the foundational concepts of the marriage and family therapy field, providing a comprehensive overview of a range of models and their practical application. Designed specifically for distance-learning, Yulia Watters and Darren Adamson bring together a collection of experienced marriage and family therapists to teach the absolute essentials of marriage and family therapy without peripheral or incidental information. Iterative in its presentation, the book introduces important systems concepts, provides a compelling history of family therapy, presents detailed exploration of classical and postmodern approaches to therapy, and covers clinical application and treatment planning. It uniquely follows the course structure of the first institution to receive Commission on Accreditation for Marriage and Family Therapy Education (COAMFTE) accreditation for both master’s and doctoral online programs, giving students the fundamental knowledge they need to help them prepare for their licensing examination and subsequent practice as MFTs. Written for students seeking to be MFT practitioners, this important volume adds a fresh perspective to teaching and application of family therapy.

Triangles

Author : Peter Titelman
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN 13 : 1136862269
Total Pages : 607 pages
Book Rating : 4.1/5 (368 download)

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Download or read book Triangles written by Peter Titelman and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2012-03-22 with total page 607 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Move through emotional triangles toward a natural systems view of the individual in the context of the family and society Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives presents clear applications of Murray Bowen’s concept of the emotional triangle in the family, the organization, and society. This comprehensive book discusses in detail the theory, the theory’s application to the therapist’s own family, clinical applications, organizational applications, and societal applications. This unique resource examines the value of the triangle concept for understanding the emotional process of the family, the organization, and society. Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives provides a theoretical context for understanding the triangle concept and its application, then progresses to exploring and applying the concept of the triangle and interlocking triangles to self, family, and other contexts. This book is devoted to explicating Bowen’s seminal concept of the triangle, and providing a clear description of the process of detriangling in clinical practice. The text includes several case studies and vignettes to illustrate concepts. Topics in Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives include: a historical and conceptual overview the triangle’s function in the effort to increase differentiation of self the presence of triangles in non-human primates Bowen’s differentiation of self effort in his own family and business the functioning of triangles at the time of chronic illness and death emotional triangles involving pets and humans the application of the concept of triangles and interlocking triangles to clinical issues in marriage the presence of triangles in the child-focused family triangles in stepfamilies the triangle’s presence and function in families with substance abusing teens triangles involving extramarital relationships triangles in organizations and businesses the triangle’s function in the context in societal emotional process and much more! Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives is a stimulating, enlightening resource for family therapists, social workers, psychologists, pastoral counselors, and counselors.

Your Mindful Compass

Author : Andrea Maloney Schara
Publisher :
ISBN 13 : 9780615928791
Total Pages : 318 pages
Book Rating : 4.9/5 (287 download)

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Download or read book Your Mindful Compass written by Andrea Maloney Schara and published by . This book was released on 2013-12-01 with total page 318 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Your Mindful Compass" takes us behind the emotional curtain to see the mechanisms regulating individuals in social systems. There is great comfort and wisdom in knowing we can increase our awareness to manage the swift and ancient mechanisms of social control. We can gain greater flexibility by seeing how social controls work in systems from ants to humans. To be less controlled by others, we learn how emotional systems influence our relationship-oriented brain. People want to know what goes on in families that give rise to amazing leaders and/or terrorists. For the first time in history we can understand the systems in which we live. The social sciences have been accumulating knowledge since the early fifties as to how we are regulated by others. S. Milgram, S. Ashe, P. Zimbardo and J. Calhoun, detail the vulnerability to being duped and deceived and the difficulty of cooperating when values differ. Murray Bowen, M.D., the first researcher to observe several live-in families, for up to three years, at the National Institute of Mental Health. Describing how family members overly influence one another and distribute stress unevenly, Bowen described both how symptoms and family leaders emerge in highly stressed families. Our brain is not organized to automatically perceive that each family has an emotional system, fine-tuned by evolution and "valuing" its survival as a whole, as much as the survival of any individual. It is easier to see this emotional system function in ants or mice but not in humans. The emotional system is organized to snooker us humans: encouraging us to take sides, run away from others, to pressure others, to get sick, to blame others, and to have great difficulty in seeing our part in problems. It is hard to see that we become anxious, stressed out and even that we are difficult to deal with. But "thinking systems" can open the doors of perception, allowing us to experience the world in a different way. This book offers both coaching ideas and stories from leaders as to strategies to break out from social control by de-triangling, using paradoxes, reversals and other types of interruptions of highly linked emotional processes. Time is needed to think clearly about the automatic nature of the two against one triangle. Time and experience is required as we learn strategies to put two people together and get self outside the control of the system. In addition, it takes time to clarify and define one's principles, to know what "I" will or will not do and to be able to take a stand with others with whom we are very involved. The good news is that systems' thinking is possible for anyone. It is always possible for an individual to understand feelings and to integrate them with their more rational brains. In so doing, an individual increases his or her ability to communicate despite misunderstandings or even rejection from important others. The effort involved in creating your Mindful Compass enables us to perceive the relationship system without experiencing it's threats. The four points on the Mindful Compass are: 1) Action for Self, 2) Resistance to Forward Progress, 3) Knowledge of Social Systems and the 4) The Ability to Stand Alone. Each gives us a view of the process one enters when making an effort to define a self and build an emotional backbone. It is not easy to find our way through the social jungle. The ability to know emotional systems well enough to take a position for self and to become more differentiated is part of the natural way humans cope with pressure. Now people can use available knowledge to build an emotional backbone, by thoughtfully altering their part in the relationship system. No one knows how far one can go by making an effort to be more of a self-defined individual in relationships to others. Through increasing emotional maturity, we can find greater individual freedom at the same time that we increase our ability to cooperate and to be close to others.

Rules of Estrangement

Author : Joshua Coleman, PhD
Publisher : Random House
ISBN 13 : 0593136888
Total Pages : 337 pages
Book Rating : 4.5/5 (931 download)

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Download or read book Rules of Estrangement written by Joshua Coleman, PhD and published by Random House. This book was released on 2024-09-03 with total page 337 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A guide for parents whose adult children have cut off contact that reveals the hidden logic of estrangement, explores its cultural causes, and offers practical advice for parents trying to reestablish contact with their adult children. “Finally, here’s a hopeful, comprehensive, and compassionate guide to navigating one of the most painful experiences for parents and their adult children alike.”—Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Labeled a silent epidemic by a growing number of therapists and researchers, estrangement is one of the most disorienting and painful experiences of a parent's life. Popular opinion typically tells a one-sided story of parents who got what they deserved or overly entitled adult children who wrongly blame their parents. However, the reasons for estrangement are far more complex and varied. As a result of rising rates of individualism, an increasing cultural emphasis on happiness, growing economic insecurity, and a historically recent perception that parents are obstacles to personal growth, many parents find themselves forever shut out of the lives of their adult children and grandchildren. As a trusted psychologist whose own daughter cut off contact for several years and eventually reconciled, Dr. Joshua Coleman is uniquely qualified to guide parents in navigating these fraught interactions. He helps to alleviate the ongoing feelings of shame, hurt, guilt, and sorrow that commonly attend these dynamics. By placing estrangement into a cultural context, Dr. Coleman helps parents better understand the mindset of their adult children and teaches them how to implement the strategies for reconciliation and healing that he has seen work in his forty years of practice. Rules of Estrangement gives parents the language and the emotional tools to engage in meaningful conversation with their child, the framework to cultivate a healthy relationship moving forward, and the ability to move on if reconciliation is no longer possible. While estrangement is a complex and tender topic, Dr. Coleman's insightful approach is based on empathy and understanding for both the parent and the adult child.