Author : Toby Hazlewood
Publisher :
ISBN 13 : 9781724016171
Total Pages : 144 pages
Book Rating : 4.0/5 (161 download)
Book Synopsis Bird-Nesting: Extreme Co-Parenting After Divorce by : Toby Hazlewood
Download or read book Bird-Nesting: Extreme Co-Parenting After Divorce written by Toby Hazlewood and published by . This book was released on 2018-09-25 with total page 144 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: When divorcing, most parents will be concerned over how best to raise their children after separation of the family unit. Co-parenting, where both parents remain actively involved in raising their kids is becoming more commonplace as parents recognise the need to put aside their relationship differences in favour of raising the kids most effectively. For those who are committed to doing the very best to raise their kids, and ensure that their needs are put to the fore, there is an even more child-centric model of post-divorce family life; bird-nest co-parenting. In this model, the kids from the separated family remain in a single home and the divorced parents come and go around them, rather than the more conventional model where the kids move back and forth between homes and parents. The model is unusual, innovative and offers a unique means of providing continuity in the kids' upbringing. It also requires extensive compromise, planning and consistency in execution both by the parents and also the children..This book distils the knowledge and experience gained in the raising my two daughters following divorce, from the ages of 3 and 7, to 14 and 18, first via equal co-parenting and for the last two years using bird-nesting. My ex-wife and I determined in 2005 that our relationship with each other was over, but we were both committed to remaining actively involved in the raising of our daughters for the duration of both their childhood. Co-parenting, and later nesting, have allowed us both to preserve an active role as parents to our daughters, sharing equally in the highs and inevitable lows of raising kids. This model of post-divorce parenting and life has also helped us both to recover from divorce and build happy and fulfilled lives individually. More importantly, we've jointly raised two contented, loving, well-adjusted and accomplished daughters who have a close bond with each of us and with each other.This book introduces the concept of bird-nesting (also known as birds-nest parenting, bird-nest co-parenting or just nesting) and describes the core-principles of how it is intended to work. It provides a personal account of how our arrangement emerged (full-credit goes to my ex-wife for first suggesting it). It describes the challenges and pitfalls we've encountered and overcome along the way. It also shares the many beneficial experiences that co-parenting and then nesting have brought about in all our lives. On hearing of the concept, many will voice scepticism, and express concerns about how nesting could possibly work, ranging from how the financial aspects stack up, the challenges that it presents for potentially blurring the boundaries between pre and post-divorce life, and also in relation to the inevitably closer visibility afforded into the life of your ex (and for them in relation to your life). This book tackles each of these objections in turn and assists the reader in understanding how they can be managed, minimised and dealt with to allow you all to benefit from employing the arrangement. If you are curious as to how to give your kids the best life possible after the separation of their family unit, if you are open to new and innovative ways of living, or if you are simply curious to understand how such an arrangement can be made to work, I hope you will find this book interesting and informative. I'm passionate about sharing my experiences and details of the challenges that I have overcome in the hope that it may help others who are tackling similar situations in their lives. I'm proud of my kids as all parents are, but I'm also proud of the way that we've been able to give our kids a childhood that is by no means second-best, but rather one that is complete and loving. I hope that this book will find others who have a similar goal for the raising of their kids post-divorce and who are interested to learn more about bird-nesting, an extreme form of co-parenting.
